I have always known that Jeff has always let me be me, but this week I realized that all over again, and fell even more in love with my husband than I ever thought I could.
We had a great friend come home for the week, and I spent more time with him than with Jeff. I learned more about him, because he is sort of an old friend, but a new friend. We have been friends with him for a while, but I have only started really talking in the past year.
My realization comes form this though, because while I was spending time with my friend, he asked me if Jeff cared. No, he wants me to be me, and sometimes that is just hanging out with other people, male or female, and I want him to do the same.
Then it hit me, a lot of people would get upset if their wife, girlfriend, husband or boyfriend, spent more time in one week with a friend than them. Why? Why do people feel this way, why do people get upset by this, and why do people get into relationships and then try to change the other person over time. I did not fall in love with Jeff because he did anything I wanted him to, I fell in love with him because he was himself, and that is what I want in life. I want to be me, and more so I want him to be him. I do not want change what he likes, or what he does. I certainly do not want him to change me either. I am not going to go to bed with him every night, nor is he with me. I do not care what he watches or does, I know at the end of everyday, he is going to tell me he loves me. I will do the same.
My advice to all married or not, be who you are, if your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to change, who your core person is, don't.